Be Excellent To Each Other

So. A gentleman of my acquaintance is about to date a new lady this weekend that he met during work. When asked if he had checked her out on Facebook, the response was that he didn’t know if she was on Facebook and hadn’t looked. I pointed out that any normal person would have snuck a look at her security pass or otherwise managed to find out her surname and then Facebook stalked her. He disagrees with my definition of normal.

Obviously, in order to settle this we need SCIENCE. Hence the poll.

So, would you pre-vet your date thanks to the miracle of the Internets?

I'm such a sad loner that if it wasn't for the Internet, I wouldn't have a date.

So, chances are I know all there is to know about her anyway.

So if you have been stalking her why don't you let Kissys mate know what he is in for?

I would do it but I would never say that I had done it. I don't think it's particularly normal, but I don't think facebook is particularly normal, and it seems most people (myself included) are happy to use it.

The lulz.

Standard application form, inc credit checks and a administration fee of £30. many are willing but few are chosen.

Or, I'll just say "hello, I'm MaliA, mighty space pirate. I'm leaving town in 12 hours and you'd like to spend at least eight of those hours with me. Let's go to your place, now, and pick up some wine on the way."

Facebook is for subhumans, if she has an account stay well clear.

Much better to find out what her Halo4 rank is and if she prefers the fun factor of 2wd over 4x4 RC buggies.

No.

It's up to her to make whatever impression she wants. If it's not an accurate one, It'll be clear soon enough, but probably still better than Facebook.

Increasingly normal I'd say. At the very least you can work out how stupid she is by seeing how much of her profile is wide open to the internet. I don't think I could reasonably date someone that didn't have a clue about their security settings.

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What Dave said.

I suspect I'd have a quick look, despite knowing that some people give a very inaccurate impression of themselves on FB.

I never trust posts about 'A Friend'.

You should tell her you're married, Chris. Think of the children. Walk away.

Met during work: no.

Met on dating website: yes.

Heh.

You're right to be suspicious, but for the wrong reasons. Unlike the person who invented the word munter, it's not me. But the person concerned wishes to remain anoynmous.

That reminds me, and I may be treading on dangerous ground here.. but didn't one of our members ask advice about having an affair on here?

I can't remember who it was but I vaguely remember their wife being ill? Possibly? I wonder what happened there?

You should always ignore my 2am posts.

This was it:

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=3203&hilit=wife+ill

Epic.

Wow... 2009! So many names and posters. Good times man, good times.

Beex, shadow of its former cheating self.

Any hint as to either who that was or how it panned out?

I don't remember the original thread but reading that I thought it could be the long-departed Dr. A. I know his missus was variously ill and they had a bit of a break-up/make-up spell, but then I supposed that that bit about working in an office didn't mesh because as far as I know he's been self-employed for years.

I figured out who it was at the time. I can't remember the answer now, though!

IP logs, chop chop.

No, they used a proxy, which is how I figured out who it was.

I don't think it's particularly right to try finding out now. Let history be history.

For the second time in this thread, I agree with Dave.

I agree with Mr Dave and Craster on both counts.

Then poll be damned, I'm calling that a consensus.

I agree with Craster, but not Mr Dave

I'm so disagreeable.

Dave, make sure kissyfur buys you flowers before he slips you the shocker.

I'm less interested in who it was and more in what happened next.

Yeah, reading back... Did we get any kind of closure?

Bump the thread and ask for the mysterious stranger to return

I'm not sure Beex is a true representation of the general population. Let's face it, most of us are pretty weird.

For the record, I'd Google them fo' sho'.

Poster number 3 clearly wasn't having a good day being all serious and whatnot.

New Chinny would have just said he should stick his dick in a Megadrive and turn the power on.

There's a 50/50 chance we're no longer on speaking terms with whoever it was.*

Also, Grim.. told me it was Mimi.


* And actually I don't care who it was. It's their business.

Is that his name for it?

Unfortunately

I've just read back through that thread and it reminds me of why I came here. There are (or used to be) some genuinely funny people here.

We don't charge £2 a month for our love?

Pretty much everyone in that thread still posts here. At least three of them were Davpaz sockpuppets, too*.


*the ones that weren't funny

Most do, but we've lost Myp, MetalAngel and a few of the other regular posters don't seem to post as much. Nevertheless, good times.

I'm glad that we were able to help Naysayer with his predicament.

Never, never, read a thread back to front.

If you have seen her in the flesh (which I assume you have) and you like her, then not sure what else you need for a first date.

That said its almost the normal for people to check you out online.

How long after the date do have you to wait until you 'add' them as a friend? And who initaites it?
Dam it, the internet makes these things way more complex.

Red shirt, money, condoms.

I'd say the woman should request you as a friend, but only cause I'm a bit old fashioned. It's like opening doors for women, init?

If she wants to add you then you can probably assume that the date went well.

If she doesn't, then "Congratulations"! You've become the subject of ridicule on her page. It already has 112 Likes.

Should have worn a red shirt.

I find it easier to not spend a lot of time fretting what you should or shouldn't do, and in fact just talk to the girl about it. If you've had a couple of dates and have at least snogged her, having a chat about whether to add her on facebook shouldn't be difficult.